Jinxed Universe

Warning, I am a hard one when it comes to lazyness and lack of dicipline. So, if you don't agree with my thoughts, then shame on you and get off my site.

As most people know, I love animals. I have had everything from a dog, and a cat to chickens, turkeys, geese, and a goat. Of all of these my favorite is a dog. They just are so much more intelligent than most other animals.

When we had our dog, we had someone come help us train him. Anyways, the dog trainer was able to train us and our dog. It was fairly easy, but we just had to be consistent. If we didn't follow through for one time, we had to start all over. It was very important to let the dog know if what he was doing was good, where we would encourage him with a "Good Boy!", or when he would do something wrong, we would tell him, "No." Sure enough, he was able to learn quickly and was a wonderful dog.

One day I heard a story where a woman had just got a dog. A while into getting this dog, it started to poop on the carpet. So, when she saw this she would open the door going outside throw a dog biscuit out the door and tell it to go outside. It would then proceed outside while she cleaned up its mess. Day after day, this dog would poop on the carpet and she would throw a biscuit outside to get it to go out while she cleaned up after it.

After a month of this she was talking to the friend and telling of her dog and how she couldn't train the dog to go outside. The friend asked what she did when the dog pooped on her carpet. The woman told of how she would throw a treat out the door and get the dog out of the house while she cleaned up.

The friend laughed as she heard this. She told the woman how the dog was viewing pooping on the carpet as a good thing because it gets to go outside and is given a treat. So, it corresponds the pooping on the carpet to the double rewards.

Now, the real purpose of my story. I can't tell you how many times I have seen kids, from infant to 18 doing this kind of behavior.

When I got home from my mission my mom would ask my brother to take out the garbage. She would do this a couple of times in an hours time. Then after he blew her off, she would turn to me and ask, of course I would do it. After a month of this, I had figured out what was going on, my mom had trained my brother that if he would balk at taking out the garbage, she would leave him alone, and it worked. To this day he doesn't do any chores. Because he knew he would just moan and not have to do it.

How many times do we reverse train our kids. We don't have to tell them what they are doing is wrong, they know that. But, we don't enforce the rules. If we let our kids run our lives then we are the ones being trained by our kids. Look at how my brother trained my mom. She now knows that if she tells him to take out the garbage it won't get done, so don't ask him. Ask someone else.

Here is another example. I know someone who fell on hard times and now doesn't have any employment. So, having a good family, his family began to help him out by giving him money for rent and food. All they had to do was report to the family on how things were going. Things went fine for the first few months. Then the reports stopped coming in, nobody could find out what was going on. So, the family went over and found them not looking for a job, but lounging around and doing nothing worthwhile.

So, according to the rules, they were supposed to make a report on how thing were going, they would continue gettting help. But, they couldn't even do that. According to the rules that is a breach of contract and therefore they shouldn't get any assistance.

Continuing on with this story, a year has gone by and the family is still "helping" this individual. They still don't have a job and the family is still supporting them. They are making no effort to change their situation. So, you can see here that the family has trained their child that they can do what they want and the family will financially support them even if it means doing nothing.

Ideally in this situation the person should be left alone. Since, they don't want to do anything. They should be free to suffer the consequences of their actions. Instead, they are a burden on their family and no end in site. If they were left on their own they would come to the harsh reality that I've got to work to eat, I've got to work to have roof over my head. Hmmm, maybe I should get my act together and do something. Otherwise as it says in Galatians, "Whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap." Also, in D&C 42:42 it says, "Thou shalt not be idle; for he that is idle shall not eat the bread nor wear the garments of the laborer."

Some may call me heartless, but I'm all for giving a helping hand to those who truley need it. But, if they don't really need it. No stinking way. Tough love people, that is the best training. Sometime they force you to do this, and you shouldn't have to feel bad.